tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-815332158358090946.post1314513241710507449..comments2023-10-15T00:25:21.242-07:00Comments on Dan Glover: The Space BetweenDan Gloverhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15452167300573196269noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-815332158358090946.post-26134629371318603212013-02-10T12:35:02.914-08:002013-02-10T12:35:02.914-08:00Hi Mariah,
No need to be sorry, I enjoy your comme...Hi Mariah,<br />No need to be sorry, I enjoy your comments very much! Thank you!<br /><br />Yes, you make a lot of sense. We cannot just say: here's an idea. Instead, we have to live it, to make it our own. Otherwise, people see through us. They know we aren't being sincere in our life. I think this happens a lot with moralists, those folk who believe it is their duty to tell us all how to live our lives when they are a mess in their own life.<br /><br />Myself, I start by picking out two conflicting aspects of life and asking, what comes first? Am I going to go out drinking tonight, or am I going to stay home and write? What comes first? Well, for me, the writing always comes first. In time, the things that come first in my life have come to dominate to the exclusion of all else.<br /><br />I think you are doing that very well at that. You seem to be asking the right questions; there is no one right answer, of course. It will vary from person to person depending upon our personal histories. <br /><br />Thanks again! It is always a pleasure to hear from you.<br /><br />Dan<br />Dan Gloverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15452167300573196269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-815332158358090946.post-66743201727890782252013-02-10T06:32:45.439-08:002013-02-10T06:32:45.439-08:00I'm so sorry I'm so random...I am going th...I'm so sorry I'm so random...I am going through a scattered time in my life. I never took you to say I was uncaring..sometimes my words don't come out the way they make perfect sense in my head.<br /><br />I made a decision to let go of many of the things that seemed to be taking me off my course...whatever that might be. Those things just didn't seem "right". Dating, going out, imbibing alcohol, and (duh duh duuuuh) Facebook. Not so much trying to "fit in" with groups of people, but putting myself into a category that allowed for me to mingle with them - when there was nothing to mingle about. It all became drama, idle chatter, really nothing of substance. I think the disconnect or pulling away was not an actual "action", but my true being trying to tell me that the way I was using was not actually "the way". I'm rambling to a complete and total stranger...but I appreciate your words, because they are that of substance. Even if mine don't seem so, I hope that it is making some sense...<br /><br />Thank you, Dan. :) You are inspiring.Queen of Bad Ideashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04851819082401703827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-815332158358090946.post-58743002464553749642013-01-22T21:15:44.030-08:002013-01-22T21:15:44.030-08:00Hello Mariah,
Thank you so much for your reply. I ...Hello Mariah,<br />Thank you so much for your reply. I didn't mean to imply that you're an uncaring person. Forgive me if you took it that way. I was simply attempting to explain why I chose to use the term 'disinterested' as opposed to 'dissociated' or 'disconnected.'<br /><br />I see that you understood what my intent was as you go on to say that you pull away at times. I think we as human beings often times become so attached to those people and things we love that we end up becoming overwhelmed with the burden of it all; we become so larded with the pain we perceive others inflicting upon us that we just shut down. We say: I am depressed.<br /><br />I think we sometimes mistake these feelings of attachment for caring. We say: maybe I just care too much. We become numb to the pain. Yet by cutting off the sense of pain we also lose that sense of wonderment and magic that is the world.<br /><br />Instead, perhaps we'd be better off cultivating non-attachment. Rather than shunning the pain we might well explore it deeply and then just let it go. Much of my writing is my way of dealing with the suffering that life throws my direction. Rather than taking too much to heart I examine these feelings through words. In this way I find I can set aside the attachments I feel without setting aside my sense of caring.<br /><br />It's not that I stop caring; rather, I let go of my attachment to these temporal things. I strive to live in the moment rather than clinging to a past that is gone or waiting for a future that might never arrive.<br /><br />Does that help at all? Or am I further confusing matters? Dan Gloverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15452167300573196269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-815332158358090946.post-74448470252543686252013-01-22T21:13:49.248-08:002013-01-22T21:13:49.248-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Dan Gloverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15452167300573196269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-815332158358090946.post-79338682124548372772013-01-22T16:51:46.696-08:002013-01-22T16:51:46.696-08:00Hi Dan!
Thank you for the reply :)
I don't ...Hi Dan! <br />Thank you for the reply :) <br /><br />I don't find myself uncaring - in fact, I am very passionate. Balance is my main problem. I can look into "reality" and see the love and the hate, the giving and the taking - the hurt and the good feelings. It is over-whelming at times...so I pull myself away. It almost seems as though it is out of body - as though I am the observer of myself.<br /><br />Whether I react or not. So, perhaps I used the wrong words? I know that I am an INTP (according to some silly test)...<br /><br />And death...I have never become upset with any but one, and only because I blamed myself for it. Though, years later, I realized that her death had absolutely nothing to do with me and that it was simply her moment. <br /><br />(This may seem to be an odd response...but I wanted to respond. It's just been an unwelcome drama filled week for me.)Queen of Bad Ideashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04851819082401703827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-815332158358090946.post-23656172371690886462013-01-12T17:41:04.240-08:002013-01-12T17:41:04.240-08:00Hello Mariah! That's a wonderful question. By ...Hello Mariah! That's a wonderful question. By using the term 'disinterested' I am attempting to convey the notion of caring without attachment. One may nurture the world without clinging to the temporal patterns that arise, flourish, and fade away. <br /><br />This is accomplished by keeping in mind our obligations not only to other human beings but to the world. Practicing disinterest doesn't entail forsaking our duty. It means we fulfill our responsibilities without becoming overrun by them. <br /><br />In a very real sense the present becomes all that exists, an ever-flowing moment, if you will; these people in our life, all sentient beings in fact, become of paramount importance. By understanding we are all on a journey to death--by practicing disinterest--we might learn to hold those who are dear to us without strangling them with this thing we call love.<br /><br />'Disconnected' and 'dissociative' seem to have a connotation of uncaring, of being separate and apart from the world, a silent witness watching everything unfold yet never taking part. <br /><br />I would love to hear what you think. Thank you so much for writing!<br /><br />Dan Gloverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15452167300573196269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-815332158358090946.post-85903045193496631332013-01-12T08:03:23.881-08:002013-01-12T08:03:23.881-08:00Disinterested or disconnected? I often run into be...Disinterested or disconnected? I often run into being disconnected and/or dissociative.<br /><br />Beautifully written :)Queen of Bad Ideashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04851819082401703827noreply@blogger.com